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our engagement story |
Monday, November 15, 2010
Marathon Shopping Day with Nancy
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Lani & Nancy Escavating Treasures |
This was our first stop, one of many, for the day. Our Mission: to find hidden "Treasures" for her Nancy's "French Country Cottage" home makeover. We couldn't have found a more perfect way to start the day. A moving sale "hosted" by a very interesting couple, that is moving to Costa Rica. Not Costa Mesa, but Costa Rica! The woman asked to take our picture for her blog "Third World Wife..." http://robynchildcole.wordpress.com/2010 /11/14/bundling-sucks/
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Cutist Baby (Tiger) Ever! - Halloween 2010

From Hodge Podge to French Country Cottage

Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Thinking Differently About Change – “Letting Go”
SCORE Orange County, CA Newsletter: July 2010
This article was written by Steve Day, SCORE Orange County Management Counselor
In a prior newsletter article, I reviewed a different way to think about change. This different way, based on the book “Managing Transitions”, by William Bridges, begins with endings and ends with beginnings.
Endings, the “letting go” phase of the change process, is usually the most difficult part of change, so let’s focus on how we can help small business owners and employees let go of some baggage that may hold them back from successful change.
First of all, what do we mean by “baggage” in this context? Change baggage usually includes habits, relationships, environments, comfort zones, warm-and-fuzzies. Successful change doesn’t require letting go of everything, just those things that will block progress to a new beginning, a successful change. When you are assisting a person going through change, the best things you can do are to detect the baggage items, surface them, suggest ways to let go, and help people understand how letting go helps the change process.
Here are some things to keep in mind in these situations:
Be prepared for overreaction when helping people to let go. There will be emotions involved, and some people will find it very challenging to put aside ideas or habits that are in their comfort zone.
Expect some grieving, and let it happen. Grieving takes many different forms, and you may not see it first-hand. But if you’ve just told a person that a cherished idea of theirs probably won’t work, they may take it hard. Give them time and space. Also give them some alternatives to think about. Providing options is one of the most crucial things we do when trying to manage people’s reaction to change.
At all times, be respectful of the person’s ideas, especially if you must advise them to go in a different direction.
Help the client define what is really over, and what is not. Perhaps some aspects of their idea are unrealistic (money required, time required for implementation), and should either be put aside entirely or dramatically altered. But there may be pieces and parts that can be salvaged and form the nucleus for a different idea. Letting go is made easier when the person can take a piece of the old idea with them. It’s not always possible, but it can be meaningful to achieving successful endings.
Encourage future meetings and communicate often and informally to see how the person is doing with the endings phase of change, especially if they need to let go of some big baggage items and if you’ve given them some alternatives to think about/work on. Inviting a person going through change to come back for more discussion is a signal that we care about helping them work through the process.
All business owners and managers have significant experience with managing change, even when we didn’t know anything about Endings, Neutral Zones, or Beginnings. Many of our staffers and friends have no such experience. We can help them deal with the rough spots, one of which can be letting go.
This article was written by Steve Day, SCORE Orange County Management Counselor
Thinking Differently About Change – “Letting Go”
Endings, the “letting go” phase of the change process, is usually the most difficult part of change, so let’s focus on how we can help small business owners and employees let go of some baggage that may hold them back from successful change.
First of all, what do we mean by “baggage” in this context? Change baggage usually includes habits, relationships, environments, comfort zones, warm-and-fuzzies. Successful change doesn’t require letting go of everything, just those things that will block progress to a new beginning, a successful change. When you are assisting a person going through change, the best things you can do are to detect the baggage items, surface them, suggest ways to let go, and help people understand how letting go helps the change process.
Here are some things to keep in mind in these situations:
Be prepared for overreaction when helping people to let go. There will be emotions involved, and some people will find it very challenging to put aside ideas or habits that are in their comfort zone.
Expect some grieving, and let it happen. Grieving takes many different forms, and you may not see it first-hand. But if you’ve just told a person that a cherished idea of theirs probably won’t work, they may take it hard. Give them time and space. Also give them some alternatives to think about. Providing options is one of the most crucial things we do when trying to manage people’s reaction to change.
At all times, be respectful of the person’s ideas, especially if you must advise them to go in a different direction.
Help the client define what is really over, and what is not. Perhaps some aspects of their idea are unrealistic (money required, time required for implementation), and should either be put aside entirely or dramatically altered. But there may be pieces and parts that can be salvaged and form the nucleus for a different idea. Letting go is made easier when the person can take a piece of the old idea with them. It’s not always possible, but it can be meaningful to achieving successful endings.
Encourage future meetings and communicate often and informally to see how the person is doing with the endings phase of change, especially if they need to let go of some big baggage items and if you’ve given them some alternatives to think about/work on. Inviting a person going through change to come back for more discussion is a signal that we care about helping them work through the process.
All business owners and managers have significant experience with managing change, even when we didn’t know anything about Endings, Neutral Zones, or Beginnings. Many of our staffers and friends have no such experience. We can help them deal with the rough spots, one of which can be letting go.
Writing a Grant Proposal can be Daunting « Managing Nonprofits
Writing a Grant Proposal can be Daunting « Managing Nonprofits
Whether you do it yourself or hire a grant writer you will find that there are some common aspects to all grant proposals. Even if you are expert at writing grants it is a good idea to keep some of the basics as a check list that you can refer to as you develop the documents. There is a variety of approaches for this type of writing and a basic framework.
First and most critical is that the writer understands the funder’s guidelines and specific instructions regarding the presentation of certain facts; especially if it is a conditional grant. With a conditional grant it usually means that your organization needs to raise a specific amount of money before the grant is paid. Many grant writers rely on their check list to ensure that the proposal includes all steps necessary to give the document the edge for success. You need to achieve flawless quality
A good way to start is to develop a map /outline for the proposal and match it against the funders guidelines – then begin the writing of the proposal. Use language appropriate to the grant. Not every person reading the proposal will know the “jargon” you may have used to express a thought – including acronyms. Jargon is irritating to readers and often seems pretentious.
Be concise and concentrate on your organization’s ability to meet the need stated in your mission statement. Give a brief history of your nonprofit and give a capsule of your programs. Make sure to directly connect what you currently do and what you want to accomplish with the funding that is requested.
Often your proposal is one of many competing for the same grant so present your ideas as clearly as possible. Stick to the main points, eliminate wordiness. A short and succinct proposal will be appreciated by the reader. Give it life!
Lastly, let someone else read your proposal – have them read it out loud so you can hear and appreciate the contents. Make last minute adjustments as necessary then send it off with good wishes.
This entry was posted on Thursday, October 28th, 2010 at 12:19 pm and is filed under -By Author, Fundraising, Robin Noah. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.
Whether you do it yourself or hire a grant writer you will find that there are some common aspects to all grant proposals. Even if you are expert at writing grants it is a good idea to keep some of the basics as a check list that you can refer to as you develop the documents. There is a variety of approaches for this type of writing and a basic framework.
First and most critical is that the writer understands the funder’s guidelines and specific instructions regarding the presentation of certain facts; especially if it is a conditional grant. With a conditional grant it usually means that your organization needs to raise a specific amount of money before the grant is paid. Many grant writers rely on their check list to ensure that the proposal includes all steps necessary to give the document the edge for success. You need to achieve flawless quality
A good way to start is to develop a map /outline for the proposal and match it against the funders guidelines – then begin the writing of the proposal. Use language appropriate to the grant. Not every person reading the proposal will know the “jargon” you may have used to express a thought – including acronyms. Jargon is irritating to readers and often seems pretentious.
Be concise and concentrate on your organization’s ability to meet the need stated in your mission statement. Give a brief history of your nonprofit and give a capsule of your programs. Make sure to directly connect what you currently do and what you want to accomplish with the funding that is requested.
Often your proposal is one of many competing for the same grant so present your ideas as clearly as possible. Stick to the main points, eliminate wordiness. A short and succinct proposal will be appreciated by the reader. Give it life!
Lastly, let someone else read your proposal – have them read it out loud so you can hear and appreciate the contents. Make last minute adjustments as necessary then send it off with good wishes.
This entry was posted on Thursday, October 28th, 2010 at 12:19 pm and is filed under -By Author, Fundraising, Robin Noah. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Bumps on Carly's Nose. Does anyone know what it may be?
Friday, October 15, 2010
Friday, May 21, 2010
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Lani's Resume
LANI DALY
Westminster, CA
714.457.7044
lanidaly@gmail.com
Non-Profit Program Associate
Motivated, compassionate professional seeks to contribute clinical skills and comprehensive non-profit administrave background toward improving the lives of underserved individuals, particularly families and children. Highly versatile; quickly masters new roles, responsibilities, technologies and environments. Demonstrates outstanding problem solving and active listening skills; diffuses difficult situations with tact and ease. Reputation for integrity, dedication and work ethic.
- CORE COMPETENCIES -
Community Outreach • Program Development and Management • Grant Writing • Strategic Planning
• Analysis • Research and Evaluation • Event Planning • Public Speaking • Technical Assistance
• Advocacy • Resource Allocation • Fundraising • Budgeting • Marketing • Problem Solving• Multitasking
• Computer Literate • Relationship Building • Empathetic Counseling • Leadership
- KEY ACCOMPLISHMENTS -
• Recipient of the 2005 National Freddie Mac Scholarship, for the most promising Social Worker of the year for the Western Region, from the Child Welfare League of America (CWLA).
• Promoted to Program Associate prior to obtaining a Master’s Degree at Children and Family Futures, the first in the organization’s history.
- PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE -
Children and Family Futures, Irvine, CA (2002-2009)
Program Associate
Maintained full accountability for overseeing technical assistance related activities of a federally funded, national program on substance abuse, child welfare and the courts. Collaborated with staff to develop innovative new program initiatives, researched and authored grants, and reported project deliverables to government agencies. Planned, allocated and administered budgets to optimize use of resources while controlling costs.
Selected Highlights:
• Played a key role as a member of various local committees and advisory boards, with responsibility for providing community technical assistance.
• Actively participated in interventions designed to assist substance-abusing mothers for the Public Defender’s Office at the County Dependency Court.
Mariposa Women and Family Center, Orange, CA (2007-2008)
Master of Social Work Intern, Executive Assistant to the Director
Applied strategic planning, prioritization and program management skills toward creating and implementing an Aftercare substance abuse treatment program. Streamlined the policy and procedure manual, updated staff development and training manuals, and developed and integrated new literature.
Selected Highlights:
• Spearheaded the preparation and execution of a significant proposal that secured a three-year $500,000 annual award.
• Actively participated in preparing the agency’s annual major fundraising event.
Pacific Clinics, Orange, CA (2005-2006)
Master of Social Work Intern, Case Manager and Therapist
Demonstrated strong communication skills in effectively supporting clients with severe and chronic mental illness to gain/maintain maximum functioning via therapy, case management, socialization, treatment planning, group facilitation, recovery planning and relapse prevention. Created and facilitated the integration of a dual diagnosis group.
Continued…
LANI DALY • Page 2 • lanidaly@gmail.com
Southern California Alcohol and Drug Programs, Orange, CA (2000-2002)
Recovery Mentor, ON TIME Project
Teamed with the Orange County Dependency Court to assist substance-abusing mothers with recovery through a knowledge-based research project funded by the Center for Substance Abuse and Treatment. Worked one-on-one with substance abusing mothers involved with child welfare to facilitate engagement and retention in substance abuse treatment. Researched and analyzed client goals, objectives, and overall requirements for program success and utilized results to assist with determining future needs.
Cornerstone of Southern California, Tustin, CA (1999-2000)
Intake and Assessment Counselor
Assessed client issues and evaluated guidelines established by the American Society of Addiction Medicine in order to obtain insurance certification of appropriate patient placement.
Career Note: Additional experience as a Substance Abuse Treatment Counselor at New Directions for Women and Oasis Treatment Center.
- EDUCATION -
• Master of Social Work (MSW), Community Organizing, Planning & Administration - University of Southern California (USC), School of Social Work, 2008
• Bachelor of Science, Human Development (Cum Laude) - Hope International University
• Associates of Arts in Human Services, Certificate in Alcohol and Drug Studies (Cum Laude) - Cypress Community College
• Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor - California Association for Alcohol and Drug Educators
- PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT & TRAINING -
Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor - California Association for Alcohol and Drug Educators
- PRESENTATIONS (SELECT LIST) -
• Central California Regional Training, Improving Women’s Treatment Retention, Fresno, CA, May 2006
• Center for Substance Abuse and Treatment, Women across the Lifespan Conference, Baltimore, MD, July, 2004
• Drug Endangered Children’s Conference, Sacramento, CA April 2002
• Center for Substance Abuse and Treatment Methamphetamine Conference, Portland, OR, September 2000
- TELEVISION & VIDEO -
• Ricky Crier Show, Prenatal Substance Exposure, filmed in Beverly Hills CA, October 2001
• Partnership for a Drug Free America, Recovery from Methamphetamine, filmed in Portland, OR, September 2006
- EXHIBITS (SELECT LIST) -
• National Association for Drug Court Professionals, Anaheim, CA
• Child Welfare League of America, Washington, DC
• New York Association of Substance Abuse Professionals, New York, NY
- TECHNICAL SKILLS-
Microsoft Office Suite and End Note reference software
Westminster, CA
714.457.7044
lanidaly@gmail.com
Non-Profit Program Associate
Motivated, compassionate professional seeks to contribute clinical skills and comprehensive non-profit administrave background toward improving the lives of underserved individuals, particularly families and children. Highly versatile; quickly masters new roles, responsibilities, technologies and environments. Demonstrates outstanding problem solving and active listening skills; diffuses difficult situations with tact and ease. Reputation for integrity, dedication and work ethic.
- CORE COMPETENCIES -
Community Outreach • Program Development and Management • Grant Writing • Strategic Planning
• Analysis • Research and Evaluation • Event Planning • Public Speaking • Technical Assistance
• Advocacy • Resource Allocation • Fundraising • Budgeting • Marketing • Problem Solving• Multitasking
• Computer Literate • Relationship Building • Empathetic Counseling • Leadership
- KEY ACCOMPLISHMENTS -
• Recipient of the 2005 National Freddie Mac Scholarship, for the most promising Social Worker of the year for the Western Region, from the Child Welfare League of America (CWLA).
• Promoted to Program Associate prior to obtaining a Master’s Degree at Children and Family Futures, the first in the organization’s history.
- PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE -
Children and Family Futures, Irvine, CA (2002-2009)
Program Associate
Maintained full accountability for overseeing technical assistance related activities of a federally funded, national program on substance abuse, child welfare and the courts. Collaborated with staff to develop innovative new program initiatives, researched and authored grants, and reported project deliverables to government agencies. Planned, allocated and administered budgets to optimize use of resources while controlling costs.
Selected Highlights:
• Played a key role as a member of various local committees and advisory boards, with responsibility for providing community technical assistance.
• Actively participated in interventions designed to assist substance-abusing mothers for the Public Defender’s Office at the County Dependency Court.
Mariposa Women and Family Center, Orange, CA (2007-2008)
Master of Social Work Intern, Executive Assistant to the Director
Applied strategic planning, prioritization and program management skills toward creating and implementing an Aftercare substance abuse treatment program. Streamlined the policy and procedure manual, updated staff development and training manuals, and developed and integrated new literature.
Selected Highlights:
• Spearheaded the preparation and execution of a significant proposal that secured a three-year $500,000 annual award.
• Actively participated in preparing the agency’s annual major fundraising event.
Pacific Clinics, Orange, CA (2005-2006)
Master of Social Work Intern, Case Manager and Therapist
Demonstrated strong communication skills in effectively supporting clients with severe and chronic mental illness to gain/maintain maximum functioning via therapy, case management, socialization, treatment planning, group facilitation, recovery planning and relapse prevention. Created and facilitated the integration of a dual diagnosis group.
Continued…
LANI DALY • Page 2 • lanidaly@gmail.com
Southern California Alcohol and Drug Programs, Orange, CA (2000-2002)
Recovery Mentor, ON TIME Project
Teamed with the Orange County Dependency Court to assist substance-abusing mothers with recovery through a knowledge-based research project funded by the Center for Substance Abuse and Treatment. Worked one-on-one with substance abusing mothers involved with child welfare to facilitate engagement and retention in substance abuse treatment. Researched and analyzed client goals, objectives, and overall requirements for program success and utilized results to assist with determining future needs.
Cornerstone of Southern California, Tustin, CA (1999-2000)
Intake and Assessment Counselor
Assessed client issues and evaluated guidelines established by the American Society of Addiction Medicine in order to obtain insurance certification of appropriate patient placement.
Career Note: Additional experience as a Substance Abuse Treatment Counselor at New Directions for Women and Oasis Treatment Center.
- EDUCATION -
• Master of Social Work (MSW), Community Organizing, Planning & Administration - University of Southern California (USC), School of Social Work, 2008
• Bachelor of Science, Human Development (Cum Laude) - Hope International University
• Associates of Arts in Human Services, Certificate in Alcohol and Drug Studies (Cum Laude) - Cypress Community College
• Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor - California Association for Alcohol and Drug Educators
- PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT & TRAINING -
Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor - California Association for Alcohol and Drug Educators
- PRESENTATIONS (SELECT LIST) -
• Central California Regional Training, Improving Women’s Treatment Retention, Fresno, CA, May 2006
• Center for Substance Abuse and Treatment, Women across the Lifespan Conference, Baltimore, MD, July, 2004
• Drug Endangered Children’s Conference, Sacramento, CA April 2002
• Center for Substance Abuse and Treatment Methamphetamine Conference, Portland, OR, September 2000
- TELEVISION & VIDEO -
• Ricky Crier Show, Prenatal Substance Exposure, filmed in Beverly Hills CA, October 2001
• Partnership for a Drug Free America, Recovery from Methamphetamine, filmed in Portland, OR, September 2006
- EXHIBITS (SELECT LIST) -
• National Association for Drug Court Professionals, Anaheim, CA
• Child Welfare League of America, Washington, DC
• New York Association of Substance Abuse Professionals, New York, NY
- TECHNICAL SKILLS-
Microsoft Office Suite and End Note reference software
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
Friday, April 30, 2010
Garage Sale: Crafter and Shopper making room for More!
Garage Sale: Crafter and Shopper making room for More!
Crafter and "Shopper" making room for more! Saturday, May 1st.
Arts and craft supplies (painting, scrapbooking, mosaic, books, stickers, kits, baby albums, more).
Dozens of Purses (Dooney & Bourke, Coach, Liz Clayborne, Anne Taylor, Nine West...), shoes and boots (Nine West, Sketcher, Airwalk, Anne Taylor, Steve Maddan etc.).
Several Women's leather computer bags (new condition).
Household - candles, Casablanca ceiling fan, curtains, artwork, frames, nik-naks.
Nice current style clothes.
And More!!!!
21564 Lost River Ct.
Lake Forest, CA 92630
949.306.3393
•Location: Lake Forest-Bake/Toledo
Crafter and "Shopper" making room for more! Saturday, May 1st.
Arts and craft supplies (painting, scrapbooking, mosaic, books, stickers, kits, baby albums, more).
Dozens of Purses (Dooney & Bourke, Coach, Liz Clayborne, Anne Taylor, Nine West...), shoes and boots (Nine West, Sketcher, Airwalk, Anne Taylor, Steve Maddan etc.).
Several Women's leather computer bags (new condition).
Household - candles, Casablanca ceiling fan, curtains, artwork, frames, nik-naks.
Nice current style clothes.
And More!!!!
21564 Lost River Ct.
Lake Forest, CA 92630
949.306.3393
•Location: Lake Forest-Bake/Toledo
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Saturday, April 10, 2010
Small Claims Success - we came to a compromise
Well I got back a total of $1400 of my $1600 deposit. My ex-landlord was trying to keep $400 towards charges that I disputed.Through mediation, I agreed to taking $200 in payments of $50 per month. Apparantly he has lost his job and that is all he can afford. I think it's fair. I was mostly annoyed at his unprofessionalism and thinking he could just outright charge me for 100% of replacing things that were not new when I moved in or that were his responsibility (e.g. garbage disposal, electrical outlet that didn't work).
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Commencement "Blessing"
This is a true story; it happened at the University of Maryland.
Due to a recent court ruling prohibiting it, this class could not pray during during their commencement ceremony.
The students walked in tandem, filing into the already crowded auditorium. They looked almost as grown up as they felt, with their rich maroon gowns and traditional caps.
Dads swallowed hard behind broad smiles, and Moms freely brushed away tears.
The principal and several students were careful to stay within the guidelines allowed by the ruling. They gave inspirational and challenging speeches, but no one mentioned divine guidance and no one asked for blessings on the graduates or their families.
The speeches were nice, but they were routine until the final speech received a standing ovation.
A solitary student walked proudly to the microphone. He stood still and silent for just a moment, and then, it happened.
All 92 students, every single one of them, suddenly SNEEZED !!!!
The student on stage simply looked at the audience and said,
"GOD BLESS YOU"
And he walked off the stage...
The audience exploded into applause. This graduating class had found a unique way to invoke God's blessing on their future with or without the court's approval.
Due to a recent court ruling prohibiting it, this class could not pray during during their commencement ceremony.
The students walked in tandem, filing into the already crowded auditorium. They looked almost as grown up as they felt, with their rich maroon gowns and traditional caps.
Dads swallowed hard behind broad smiles, and Moms freely brushed away tears.
The principal and several students were careful to stay within the guidelines allowed by the ruling. They gave inspirational and challenging speeches, but no one mentioned divine guidance and no one asked for blessings on the graduates or their families.
The speeches were nice, but they were routine until the final speech received a standing ovation.
A solitary student walked proudly to the microphone. He stood still and silent for just a moment, and then, it happened.
All 92 students, every single one of them, suddenly SNEEZED !!!!
The student on stage simply looked at the audience and said,
"GOD BLESS YOU"
And he walked off the stage...
The audience exploded into applause. This graduating class had found a unique way to invoke God's blessing on their future with or without the court's approval.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Thursday, March 18, 2010
New Pictures of Lincoln
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Baby Joshua 9/15/79: 5 days old

Joshua was beautiful! He was perfect. In this picture he is 5 days old and my Mom (his gma) is holding him. Look at all that hair; that cute button nose; and those tiny fingers. Precious!
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Lincoln - Tiny Fingers & Tiny Toes
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Video of Lincoln - 3 Days Old
Lincoln and Mommy came home from the hospital. Daddy took this video of Lincoln so that his Uncle Dylan could see him.
Uncle Dylan has been watching the video over and over. He especially likes it when Lincoln starts to wimper and when he moves his little hands.
Dylan has been sick with a sore throat, so he has not been able to see Lincoln in person.
Lincoln is easily soothed by stroking his face and talking low and lovingly to him.

Monday, March 8, 2010
New Arrival - Baby Lincoln!
Lincoln Eris Hoover was born to Joshua Hoover and Fairen Lucas, on Sunday, March 7, 2010, at 2:13pm. He weighed 7 pounds and 4 ounces
, despite being a few weeks early. Baby and parents are well, but tired, after 28 hours of labor. It was reported by nurses, that Mother "did a great job" and that Father "was a really good coach."
Lincoln is 6 hours old in this picture. G-ma Lani and Uncle David took turns holding Lincoln during thier visit.
Fairen and Lincoln will be in the hospital until Tuesday.
Lincoln is 6 hours old in this picture. G-ma Lani and Uncle David took turns holding Lincoln during thier visit.
Fairen and Lincoln will be in the hospital until Tuesday.
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